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Stripless In The City

Stripless In The City

Dating is a great way to meet people, explore the city, and find what you like and don’t like in a partner. More often than not you find what you don’t like. Scarlett just finally had time after a long day to rest with a […]

A little Bare or Full Bush

A little Bare or Full Bush

Since the 90’s it was pretty common for women to shave. It wasn’t normal/common before, but now it’s almost weird if you don’t. I’m not a huge shaver, it’s nothing political. I’m not taking a stance against the patriarchy with my pubic hair, I’m just […]

I’ll Do Anything For Love, But Not That

I’ll Do Anything For Love, But Not That

When it comes to the world of dating it’s hard to really know what you are. One minute you think it’s going somewhere and there’s a chance then it knocks you back ten paces.

Adrian is a blast from the past. We met up in high school and rekindled our relationship years later. I thought it would be the romance of a lifetime. We rekindled our romance fairly quickly sending sweet nothings

He would call me and we would have the sweetest conversation however nothing ever really came of it. But the soft words he would speak to me would always melt my heart. I knew they were just words, not at first my revelation came in twos.

The first was when I had confessed my feelings knowing full well that this conversation would not lead to a relationship. The distance was a huge factor, neither one of us had the time or the money to really go see each other frequently enough to really keep a relationship going. Also, I wouldn’t really trust him enough to leave him to his own devices and I get a little lonely too.

All this being sad it still hurts when you tell someone that you like them and they don’t tell you they like you too, even though their actions tell you otherwise. It’s like they can’t confess it or they really don’t like you. Either way not a good look if either one of us were in a position to move, and could have something going. It’s just not going to happen. There wasn’t even a “maybe one day babe” it was just a straight up, “awww no.”

I should have taken the hint there. I guess I was just going through it. I woke up for a bit after that but I fell right back a sleep a few days later.

Then came the most recent offense. We were texting and somehow got on the topic of him coming down here. After a few minutes of him searching, he said he couldn’t find a car, and no train tickets were available.

I told him to give me a second and let me look. I found bus tickets literally 60% less than what he would have paid for a car and a train. His exact words were ” Oh no honey I don’t do the bus.”

Those words still ignite a fire inside me. I thought (before getting mad) there might have been a reason, a bad experience, a tragic accident anything. Nope, just a no.

I was confused and frustrated because the amount of I miss you’s he would send me daily, the amount of I wish you were here’s he would send me makes me think you can take a bus ride.

At that moment I just decided that while I would find anyway and do all that I could to get up there and see him, and you couldn’t do this? Something so simple? Without even a reason.

The biggest thing to me is I don’t really ask for a lot (#independent woman ) so when I do and you can’t or unwilling to, I expect more than a very condescending “Oh no honey I don’t ride the bus.”

Like WTF?

What’s your thoughts? Am I being petty, or are you just as frustrated as me? Leave a comment below and as always don’t forget to share and subscribe to our email list!

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My Top 10 Safety Dating Tips

My Top 10 Safety Dating Tips

 Dating is fun. I mean is there a better thrill than finding someone to go on adventures with? Especially when they just get you.  But everything isn’t a Hallmark movie where everything is perfect and the bad guy is as obvious as his bad dye […]

Cancel My Postmates Order, Sir We’re Through

Cancel My Postmates Order, Sir We’re Through

I used to have a guy that I used for delivery dick services. I don’t have to sugar coat with you if you’re familiar with off4thandgraham.com. But we were in relations for a while. I had no issues with him. We were involved for a […]

Why Be Me When I Can Be Someone Else?

Why Be Me When I Can Be Someone Else?

Sophia recently started dating Marcus about 3 weeks ago, they’ve already had some problems. Marcus is a phone freak meaning if you don’t respond in 5-10 minutes it’s an issue. This typically leads to a fight to the point where they won’t talk for days. Mellow dramatic for a 40-year-old man, but we all know mature slower than women so maybe that’s it.  But Sophia loves, love so while she ignored his request they’re still going strong, sorta…

One weekend to appeal to his athletic side she asked him to go on a hike after work. Sophia isn’t much of a hiker but she’s going to try it in the name of love.

 

It started off beautifully they were taking pictures, laughing, and giggling but about an hour later the sun began to set and Sophia’s anxiety began to set in. She thought it would be a 45-minute walk but it was really more like an hour he feet were starting to hurt, her sew in was getting hot, and her back was hurting. But they haven’t even gotten to the top. Marcus, however, was loving the walk, he even took pictures of the sunset.

She powered through right before they made it to the top before she snapped… As Marcus was taking his pictures by the waterfall. She snapped at him to hurry up and leave before she heads down by herself. He snapped back that he didn’t even want to be here. They end up argued all the way down to the car and ride back home.

While in the car she began to think if she does manage to make this work does she want it? Is any kind of relationship worth saving with a guy who doesn’t even want to try? She left the car without saying goodbye and she shuts the door realizing he’s not worth the effort.

Are We Set on Settling?

Are We Set on Settling?

I love hearing old stories of how people fall in love and got together. The happy ones, where men used to court women. Sending flowers, talking on the phone all night, the 3 dates before a kiss. The love you see in old Audrey Hepburn […]

A Guide To Online Dating:  Lesson One Learn The Dating Profile

A Guide To Online Dating: Lesson One Learn The Dating Profile

Getting into the dating world is something no woman really wants to get back into dating. However, it’s a necessary evil if you’re looking for a relationship in this day. I’ve been online dating for a while now while I met some good ones and […]

Baby Come Back: 3 Things To Consider Before You Give Him Another Try

Baby Come Back: 3 Things To Consider Before You Give Him Another Try

So, your ex has been all up and through your DM’s and on your phone telling you how much he misses you while drake plays in the background. You start remembering him and his D and think maybe I should try again? WAIT! Let’s think about this..

Why are you taking him back? Is it just a lonely Saturday night and you been drinking and watching Lifetime? Or have you been missing him for days, weeks, months and now think it’s a good time to get back together? Hmmm…

Why did you break up in the first place? Was it because he didn’t call you on your birthday (who can forget that?) Or was he cheating ,or another major issue? If it was for a petty reason like forgetting your bday give him another chance.

Are you happier with out him? Think of the quality of your relationship and what you want out of it. Do you think he’s able to give this to you? Don’t try to make a hoe a housewife. Sometimes you’re better off lonely and happy than together and stressed.

Honey,at the end of the day, do what makes you happy but if you’re just lonely call up a friend and have them over. Don’t rush back in to a situation and get hurt again just because you’re bored,lonely, or horny. They never turn out good.

5 ways to tell it’s not meant to be

  While relationships are fun, they’re not all made to last. Here are some easy ways to tell it’s going down. Cute texts stop/conversations. It was all heart eyes and selfies before but now it’s just the standard wyd. It doesn’t always have to be […]