Recently I’ve started therapy. Sometimes life gets really hard for me and shopping and friends laughs aren’t enough. I never thought I would get here but here I am.
I set up the appointment with my doctor on Tuesday a day I had nothing planned. I like to stew with my thoughts plus I didn’t know what type of condition I’d be in after the first time.
There were a series of forms I had to fill out that told her my family history with mental health and also a brief overview of any traumas I’ve experienced. I wrote each down and thought to my self ‘she’s going to think I’m so fucked up.’ But I had to be honest. If I feel any kind of judgment I can just leave, right?
Finally, the day came and I fussed over my outfit only to arrive and see myself in the elevator reflection thinking I look terrible.
I walked in the waiting room and it was full of natural light with hopeful messages all around. I didn’t know the etiquette here so I just sat down stayed off my phone and looked straight ahead. After a few moments my therapist came out and took me back.
We talked about her dogs (which are all huge and fluffy😍) as she looked over my paperwork. As I thought she said you’ve been through quiet alot for someone who’s only 26. I smiled and said yeah.
We talked a bit about my past traumas and other things. I was surprised I only cried twice, but it was painful opening up old wounds. Once it was over I didn’t feel any better. I was happy I got something’s off my chest but I didn’t feel hopeful. As soon as I left I went in my car and cried and just drove around town eating and I voted early. When I went home I just watched TV and drank. Not the best but it’s how I cope.
Even though I didn’t leave happy. but I wasn’t hopeless and when I was crying I didn’t spiral down the depression shoot. I went out, took a break and spent more time out than I usually would.
So that’s good, right?
Have any of you been the therapy? What’s your views on it.
I like going out and laughing having it a good time, but sometimes just being around people is to much. It sounds crazy but if you’re introverted you get it. You just don’t have the social bug extroverts have but even the most social butterfly needs to rest her wings. How though? Especially if your idea of relaxing is out with friends? Don’t worry here’s how.
Lay a little longer in bed. If it’s a Sunday and your to do lists are (sorta) done it’s ok to lay in bed listening to music or reading your favorite blog for a few minutes. Even if you just lay there basking in the sun go for it, start your day slow it’s called self care.
Reading a good book, or listening. I’m not a huge reader like I should be but, I do listen to a lot of stories whether I’m driving or just doing things in the house. I honestly find it more entertaining than music some times because I can get lost in the story while mindlessly washing dishes.
Binge watch your favorite shows. I mean it goes without saying, bingeing is fun and usually after you’ve watched TV for 8 hours straight you’re ready to do something a bit more productive.
Indulge in skin care. Try some new products and tools and get in those pores you’ve been complaining about, you’ll feel better and be better.
Get out. Doesn’t matter what you do but sometimes you don’t want to be out the house. So get out and go to that thrift store you’ve been wanting to go to, try that new restaurant, or go for a walk, it can be relaxing.
It’s about 4 months into the new year, how have your year of self-care? We all get caught up in life and something or kinda fall off and forget. No worries I’m here to get you back on track here are some ways to get back on track.
Break Away From The Distractions – To fully focus on your self you need to lose your distractions like your phone, TV, and Laptop.
Take A Nap– Who else misses taking mid-day naps? Take a 15-minute nap it can do wonders for your mind.
Seize The Moment – Enjoy life to the fullest. With the weather warming up why not explore your city more? GO out and live.
Clean your room – Nothing feels better than coming home from a long day to a clean place. So edit your space. Toss anything that doesn’t bring you joy or doesn’t serve you like those jeans you had since high school.
Create Ambience– Set the scene for yourself. Go get flowers if they make you happy, run a bubble bath
Make Dinner – Cooking is calming and meditative and you get a tasty treat.
Meditate – It’s calming, relaxing, and it helps you become one with yourself. Meditation is simple to start, take five minutes to read this article (here) and start your healing.
Go for a walk – immerse yourself in nature it stimulates your senses and restorative to your mind and mood.
Have a moment to Yourself – Set a ritual to look forward to waking up to – – like a meditating in bed or making your favorite breakfast.
Have a nightly ritual – Having a relaxing bubble bath or a nice sip of wine to look forward to at the end of the day can make any day a bit more bearable, learn how to start on (here).
Simple things like this are a great way to take care of yourself. What are some ways you self-care?