According to Healthline, there are an estimated 16.2 million people suffering from depression in the US. There are many different types of Depression such as postpartum that happens after giving birth as well as bipolar that results in manic episodes or extreme energy.
While it’s common to be sad from time to time Major depression does not go away after a day or even a few weeks. When people have a depression episode it usually can happen for weeks or months at a time. Suffers usually lose their appetite, have overwhelming sadness, and/or low energy, Most of the time people who don’t seek help get so depressed that they end up harming themselves or others.
If you or someone you know are threatening to cause harm to themselves or others please contact the Depression hotline 1-800-273-8255 and get them some help.
When I was in the throes of depression I drank heavily and had less than desirable behavior. I almost wish there was someone who would have slapped some sense into me and ask me “What the heck am I doing?!” But we don’t always have that. At any rate, when you know that there’s something wrong like you’ve lost interest in things that you love then that’s a sign. I can tell you about how I helped myself with my depression.
My biggest thing was I went to therapy, even though I only went to two sessions it was a good way to at least voice my emotions. I’m a strong believer in just getting it out, whatever it is. Something my therapist told me to do was write what I felt down. You don’t have to keep it or read it after (in fact I’d advise against it) but it’s just a way for you to vent. If you’re not a writer I highly suggest you start talking to yourself. Sounds crazy but again just vent it out. Just say it out loud.
Cry a lot let yourself feel your emotions. This happened a lot to me when I was venting. I ripped open a lot of old wounds that I didn’t even know was there, but it needed to happen. You have to know what to work on in order to work on it.
Identify your tiggers
I’m not afraid to admit I use alcohol to numb myself. It’s my crutch, its a crutch for a lot of people. But alcohol is a depressant no matter how fun and relaxing people say it is, it’s not that for everyone. Most of my suicidal thoughts came when I was drunk out of my mind. If this sounds like you I urge you to stop. It’s not easy but I promise it’s one of the best things you can do. Take baby steps, start with a day, then maybe two, then a week and so on. You can still have a drink but not til you’re drunk and don’t do it when you’re already sad or stress.
It’s not easy but avoid stressful situations. Whether it’s friends or profession. I had a string of very stressful jobs when I started working full time. None of them were great and I wasn’t doing what I wanted. I can’t stop working full time (bills, man) but I can go more towards a relaxing job that pays the bills and gives me free time. If that’s not an option for you. I can recommend do peaceful things on your days off, whatever they are have something to look forward to when you have time off.
Avoid Free Time
Remember, an idle mind is the devil’s playground. It’s OK to relax and binge watch the latest show on Netflix but don’t make it a habit. Depression can be triggered by feeling like you’re not doing anything with your life. So get up and do something. It doesn’t have to be big, but getting a hobby or simply walking, even going out to eat at a restaurant that you’ve wanted to try is helpful just to keep your mind busy.
Complete The 2 S’s
Shower and Shave. So quickly we get into the habit of not bathing, or getting dressed. You have to get yourself up and ready to go. I know it’s hard but you gotta push through and get in that shower. Remove the crust from your eyes, put on some new clothes on and brave a face.
Tell Yourself That You Love You
This is the most important one. Even if you don’t do anything else on this list. This is one that you have to do. Remind yourself every day how strong you are for not taking those pills or buying that rope. Your scars are proof of that. Hug yourself and tell yourself that you love you, even if you think no one else does. This helped me so much even when I didn’t believe it at first. You have to always tell yourself you love you, not your mom, not your friends, your S.O. whoever. You love You That’s all that matters.
Even with all this I still struggle with depression. Some days I can’t bring myself to do anything, including these posts for the all 3 of you who read it. But you have to push through it, we have to push through it. We are stronger than this depression, and we’ll learn to live with this. I believe in you and I wish you nothing but the best.