So I’m ready. After years, and years of playing second, third, and 25th choice I’ve decided not to be a choice at all. My situationship for years, way longer than it should have. I’m almost embarrassed to admit it but if I’m going to grow into the woman that I want to be, and become open to all the love and all the happiness that I want to be bestowed upon me then I have to let this go.
I don’t really know how to explain this story. First, let me explain what a situationship is for those that don’t know.
A situationship is when you’re involved with someone but it’s not official. You’re only in a relationship when you two are around each other but once the parties involved separate so does the “relationship”
I knew this guy since I was in high school we fell apart and then we got back together years later. When we got back together my Pisces mind went off into a whirlwind romance. We came back together so I know it was meant to be, allegedly Finally after a few more years of wasting my time I decided this is it. If he wanted to move on into an actual relationship then we would have definitely. But we didn’t. I don’t know how or why but this was probably one of the toughest breakups I’ve had to face. Not only was I losing a very long friend but I was giving up on a dream that I had since I was a little girl. It had to be done.
After that, I just went quiet for a few days. I believe in always taking time for yourself when you can collect your thoughts and your emotions. More importantly, you have to come up with a game plan all on your own. No girl talk, no pity parties, just sit there and think about what happened and let your mind process. This would be the time you contemplate deleting their number or simply just blocking them. Whatever you need to do to finalize this decision than do it. Afterward, you can throw a pity party and cry if you want to. After you cry you have to get on with your life. Remember this a person who didn’t take your feelings or emotions in to account so don’t waste to much time crying over them.
Now that you’ve processed everything alert your girl squad. Feel them in on all the gritty details and let them say their peace about it and get their feelings out. Although this was your relationship they were apart of it too. Don’t leave them out. After feelings are over it’s time for a trip or a night out. You don’t have to go out and find a new person but this is a celebration of your liberation! You are no longer tied down to anything or anyone and you need to feel and embrace your freedom.
When you’re ready I always suggest finding something new. It could be a new hobby a new address whatever you want it to be but just something new to help you grow into the person you want to be. This is a whole new chapter you’re opening in your life and you want to make sure you start out on the right foot in the right mindset. Find your peace and make your peace your life.
When it came to my relationship this one was a natural end, it doesn’t always end this way. Your’s could be more or less messy but the most important thing is to make this decision when you’re ready and when you’re sure. After that, the rest should come naturally.
Have you ever been in a situationship? What advice would you give?